So, for this weekly Blog and the advent of my upcoming book release, I wanted to take some time to answer some questions regarding the title of my book and some key components about the book that we have received.
First question: “What do you mean by Designing Your Life?”
So first off, Great question. The reality is when I began to embark on this journey of writing this book, I did some significant soul searching of myself. I have achieved a great deal of success in my career both personally and professionally. As I began to reflect on what led me to those periods of real growth and major accomplishments, it was directly affected by my singular focus on my goals.
These were relatively big goals that weren’t just about losing a few pounds or making a few more dollars, or even about getting that next promotion. They were much bigger and more encompassing of my whole life. Not even focused on just my career, or finances, but who I wanted to become as a person, as a human being, over my lifetime.
The concept of “Designing Your Life”, is first recognizing that you are in control of your life and you aren’t wandering aimlessly through life with a series of things that are happening to you, but you are consciously making decisions every day that determine where you are going to go in life. Where you are today is a direct reflection of the decisions you have made in the past, whether you are happy with that or not.
So, designing your Life really speaks to recognizing you determine what you want and where you are going, by your daily conscious decisions on what you are going to focus on, listen to, eat, what you choose to and not to do. If you have goals that are weak and not empowering, you likely won’t take much positive action and consequently, won’t achieve much in life. In a sense, by designing your life with strong empowering goals that motivate you to take action on the major things in life, you are far more likely to have designed or achieved a life worth living and one that you could look back on and consider a success.
Question # 2: “Why did you feel it was necessary to include the concept of “with purpose” in the title?
As I mentioned early your life is not about wandering haphazardly from one circumstance or instance to another, although some people may live their lives that way. The idea that we can consciously direct where we want to go in life is this amazing gift that we have, unfortunately many people squander this gift and settle for what happens.
Now some people will push back and suggest that I can’t control certain circumstances, which may be true. Life is difficult and can throw us curves we did not expect or anticipate, but we can choose how to react to those circumstances or situations. How you respond at these times will be determined by the kind of person you are, what your values are, or what your character is. You see, inherently you know who you are, or at least who you want to be, and those ideas and concepts will determine how you act in every situation.
We have a series of rules or expectations of ourselves, of who we see ourselves as and potentially who we want to become. By living your life with purpose, you consciously decide each day what to do, or how you will act or respond to life’s circumstances. This way you make the decisions, take the actions, and ultimately, act in accordance with who you are at your core, or who you want to be. This is living with purpose.
The final key with Living your life with purpose, is that although we generally know who we are, or are working to become, we don’t always take the time to get a clear picture of who that is, or what that looks like.
Question # 3: “How does your system for setting goals help readers design their life with purpose?”
Another great question. In considering my final point, with all the noise in our world, finding time to sit down and think about who we are or intend to be, requires work and commitment. Honestly, I’d bet if you asked most people in the world today, who they are, they couldn’t tell you what they stood for. They might rattle off some ideals, or beliefs, but to truly tell you who they are or at least intend to be, I am quite certain that they would struggle immensely, I know I did.
One of the 1st exercises I did when working with Jack Canfield was to go through a series of life defining strategy sessions. I was supposed to consider who I currently was, but who I really wanted to be. If you are setting effective goals, you really need to know where you are, before you can create plan on where you are going to go, or how to get there.
In my program, I introduce 3 exercises that will help people understand who it is that they want to become, as a person, in all 9 categories of their lives. This way when they are challenged with a decision on what to do next, or where to apply their time, etc. They will be far more inclined to make the decision that moves them closer to that ideal self they hold in their minds for themselves. This is a very basic example, but one that many people struggle with and is a good illustration.
Consider for instance, you have a goal of being lean and muscular at 205 pounds, are you as comfortable stuffing your face with that 5th piece of pizza, 10th wing, and 3rd beer, or will you be more moderate in your eating habits. Better yet, you’ll more likely opt for an even better selection altogether. This is because you believe this is who you are, or intend to be at your core, not just some will power to make the right meal options.
Question # 4: “How does your system help readers achieve “Success with Goals”
Well, I think the real consideration here is that I have been working on and developing this system for over 20 years. Both on myself and with thousands of people over the years in helping them to achieve success with their goals. The system helps to clear away the clutter that with find with daily life and distractions that often pull us from these goals to begin with.
Additionally, helping people find what truly motivates them or they are more inspired by, as opposed to just going through and selecting what they think they “should” do because that’s what everyone else is saying or doing, or they are expected to do. By finding what really lives within someone and truly moves them, leads them to their strengths and passions and ultimately helps keep them on a path of growth and self-realization. They find their zone, and consequently, pushing through the inevitable hurdles and struggles of any worthwhile endeavor is imperative.
Life is truly meant to be “Lived”, not existed through. My system helps people tap into who they are and what really moves them, then sets them out on their quest with a series of strategies, tactics, and action steps to accomplish those goals. As well as a cheat sheet to help them work through those inevitable challenges that they will undoubtedly experience. Knowing what you want, how to get it, and a sequence of steps to help you when you hit the rough spots is the only way I know to get everything you want.