So, I find myself just weeks from achieving one of my largest goals in my life. I certainly I can't say it's my biggest, or most meaningful, as being a great father or husband certainly lands at the top of my list these days. Additionally, team achievements with those I lead or work closely with probably are more meaningful for me now, as well. However, when I compare it my biggest individual goals in my life; Top Sales Performer achievements out of thousands of employees, National Kickboxing Championships, major fitness goals, starting my own first business, regardless of those things, this goal IS the biggest and most meaningful of my life!
I am also, very excited about bringing this one to closure, not because the process is finally over after a little over 3 years, but because of how much I have grown in those 3 years. Achievement of a worthwhile goal in and of itself is significant, but who you become and how you grow in that process is priceless. I thought my poop didn’t stink 4 years ago and I could do pretty much anything. I had already achieved so much in my 30’s, then lost pretty much all of it by my late 30’s, then I earned it all back again in my early 40’s. I mean what more could I have needed to prove?
Really, I didn’t need to prove anything more to anyone, myself included, I had made back all I lost and then some. Better yet, I had become an even better version of myself. Not perfect mind you, just a whole hell of a lot better. A better husband, better father, better friend, leader, mentor, coach, boss, whatever I was doing I was even better at it. I was living my values more than I ever had in my life. Doing things that were important to me, but more importantly, making a difference with everyone I touched. Well, most everyone anyway, like I said I’m not perfect, just ask my wife.
What made the difference you may be asking by now? Well, I mentioned just a moment ago, I was living my values more closely than I ever had in my life. I had a fantastic job, loving and supportive family, phenomenal friends, and although we’re not rich, but there is very little we want for. Then one day, at an unlikely seminar 4 years ago, that I nearly walked out of, I had a profound experience that touched me in a way that changed me forever. And I started on a path that lead me to where I am today.
I changed in ways I never could have expected and I grew in ways I never thought I would want to. But, like any really good, meaningful goal, it stretched me and I grew! I grew in a way that would never allow me to go back to where I was before. I was a newer, better, more improved version of myself and nothing less than this new expectation was going to work for me anymore.
Some people might have thought I was having a mid-life crisis, my own wife thought they might have brain-washed me at first. Not to sound too “woo woo”, but it touched my soul, and the worst part was, I didn’t know what to do about it. I couldn’t even explain it, I was struggling to justify it to myself. I didn’t have the words, previously in my life I had not allowed myself to feel the emotions to recognize what was going on. What I did know, when I left that 5-day seminar, was I wanted more of it!
So, I immersed myself into even more personal development than I ever had, but a different version. It wasn’t just about achievement and conquering new worlds, yes, that was still there, but now there was this new urge, to help move others, in the way I had been moved. I still wanted to accomplish HUGE personal goals, more money, bigger house etc, but my biggest most powerful and moving goals weren’t just for me anymore, or even for my family and myself. They were bigger, they were more meaningful and fulfilling. I wanted to help others become the best version of themselves!
Now, I had been doing this work for years in my role as a Sales Leader for the last 20 years, but this was much bigger and knew I needed to go so much deeper to help others understand. I was so moved, I had to go further, I had to touch more people. More people like me, who likely got lost as I did on that journey to achieving Success. Trading values for success, giving into or even giving up on things that were very important to me. I now knew there was a better way, I was living it, and I had to share it!
So, what was the goal, what was so important that I had to share with the world? A book. I know, I know, not another self-help book, right? No, I mean, yes, but No. Not just another one book, a series of books. And not just books, but webinars, and coaching programs designed for people who like myself are driven, ambitious, determined, up and coming professionals and entrepreneurs who want to get ahead but don’t want to give up the pursuit to find THEIR success, whatever that looks like for them. They also don’t want to have to trade values for success, like I had done before and many if not most may very well be doing right now. Jack Canfield helped me see a better way and I was determined to share it with as many people as possible.
Today, I am about 6 weeks from unveiling MY book to the world, my first book, about setting goals. Which will be supported by a webinar and companion guide, as well as a coaching program for those that really want or need someone to help lead them through this process. Remember, it’s not just about setting goals, it’s about designing a life with purpose. Through a process of conscious decision making that is leading you towards your biggest and most impactful goals, while not losing sight of your values and what is most important to you. Truly designing a life that you can be proud of, one that is full and enriched with the best parts of life, not just the ones you count in your bank. The memories that you cherish your whole life!
Approximately around Father’s Day 2017, we will be launching “Success with Goals – Designing a Life with Purpose”, and I am asking for your help, I have attached a few copies of my possible book covers and would love any feedback on what your thoughts are. Please respond to this post or email me at Info@EricWhitmoyer.Com.
My Break-Through Goal for 2017