It’s a new year and you are very likely considering or discussing making a New Year’s resolution. Well, before you go and make that resolution, I thought it might be helpful for you to understand the true concept of a New Year’s resolution. A resolution is a statement to yourself and everyone else that you are resolving to either do something different, forever, or not do something anymore, again, ever. So, when you think about a New Year’s resolution in that way, you should realize, and take heed, that you are making a deal with yourself and with everyone else for a certain amount of finality. You are resolving, or deciding, to do or not do this thing, period, end of discussion. That is a lot of weight to make on an evening at the stroke of midnight, with a glass of champagne in your hand, swept up in the emotion of the moment.
The concept of a New Year’s resolution, is convenient because it’s a new year and this seems like a perfect time to make such bold statements. The new year is also fresh and new, which lends to the idea of a fresh start. Hence the concept of a New Year’s resolution. Now, I also don’t need to be the one to tell you how often people fail with these resolutions, I’m sure by now you have all heard the statistics of a more than 90% failure rate. I’m also quite sure you know that many people fail within the 1st few days of making their New Year’s claim, more still, within the first couple of weeks, and much of the rest fall short before the end of January.
So why do we do it to ourselves? Why do we make these bold and aggressive statements, knowing the odds are stacked against us? For the same reason that we do most everything else in our society that aren’t logical or practical, it’s customary. It’s widely accepted as the norm, everyone is doing it, you should do it too. Now, I am not heard to bastardize our long-standing customs and societal expectations, particularly when they are as well intended as this one is. However, if it’s not working, then we should likely come up with a better solution.
Now for someone who has written a book on Goal Setting, why in the world would I be bagging on New Year’s resolutions? Simply, because as it designed, the process is set up for failure. On a given evening at a specific time, I am to begin to do something I have never done, or not to do something I have always done, on a moment’s notice for all eternity. Or, at least that’s how many of us make these resolutions, because we truly don’t understand the concept of a resolution statement. If we did, we would never make such bold statements to ourselves, let alone the entire world.
So, what am I suggesting? Well, for starters, don’t just set goals on New Year’s, or better yet, ever on New Year’s. Next, spend some quality time thinking about what you truly want or don’t want in your life. Weigh those things against what is truly important to you, your values, and then come up with a resolution that you are absolutely committed to. The reason so many people’s New Year’s resolutions fail is because they aren’t 100% committed to do this thing they resolved to do. You can’t be successful in making such changes in your life unless you are 100% committed, it’s just too damn hard otherwise.
So, Eric if I have vetted my goal through my values system, and I’m 100% committed to achieving my goal, then I’m assured to achieve it, right? “Well, no”, there is much more that goes into this process. BUT, if you want to give yourself a 10 times better chance of achieving your goals, then there is a 3rd component that you must work through. You must take the time to “Know your WHY”, this is a crucial element that must be factored in, before you can make such bold resolution statements to change your life. Your “WHY”, is what keeps you going on the second or third day when the craving’s kick in. Or on the eighth day when the peer pressure starts. Or at whatever point when the initial “high” of the decision starts to wear off, and the totality of that decision sets in. When it becomes real that you are trying to change your life.
Knowing WHY you chose to do, or not do those things, to help you to achieve your goal, is what WILL keep you from failing at that resolution, that decision, to have what you truly want in your life. Because, what is a life that is not designed how YOU would want it? Live your life on your terms, how you want to live it, doing what is right for you and allowing you to get the most out of life that you could possibly get. That is a life well-lived, and one that we should all strive for!
As a late Christmas gift to yourself, check out my book “Success with Goals – Designing Your Life with Purpose”, the time spent reading this book is just a drop in the bucket to the amount of time you should be spending on setting goals, but it would be a huge step forward in understanding how to get what you want out of life! Make the investment in yourself to pick up this book, and as an added incentive, I have reduced my E-Book price by 50% for a limited amount of time, click the link below and pick up your copy TODAY! Don’t set another New Year’s resolution that will be lost or forgotten before the end of the month, set a goal to change your life!
Here’s to a wonderful New Year for everyone and a phenomenal 2018! Best of Luck!!!