“Success with Goals - Designing your Life with Purpose.”
What exactly does that mean? When I set out to write “Success with Goals”, I struggled because I did not want to write another typical “goals” book. But because I had already envisioned a series of books, I was convinced that the first book had to be about goal setting, as it all starts there. Without effective goals, you can’t know how to manage your time well. If you don’t manage your time well, you likely don’t communicate well, and even more likely struggle to manage others, and so on.
And, if it was all going to start with a book about goals, then how was I going to differentiate it from other similar books? For that part, I went back to my system and evaluated what was one of the most important components of setting goals that many people I had coached over the years struggled to do well? As I thought through that concept, it became obvious, it was not associating a life purpose with their goals. Too many times, I watched people set goals that were not consistent with who they were, or what they really wanted in life.
I then took the work I did with Jack Canfield and decided to incorporate his Life Purpose exercises into my book as the initial component to setting goals. I call it “step zero”. It is the foundation to ensuring all your goals are grounded in what you truly believe at your core, as to who you are and what is important to you. One challenge to doing this step in my process, is that for most people, they have never really taken the time to consider what their life purpose is. They need and look for guidance on this process, which is why I strongly recommend someone going through this process in a live setting where a coach is there to help lead them through this process. For more information on this, check out my site for updates on upcoming live events and webinars.
Now, putting those exercises aside for a moment. There is something I can show you right now that would take you a mere 15 minutes and you can quickly ascertain what is lacking in your life currently and where you should be applying your time and energy. So, here is the exercise: make a series of rings on a sheet of paper. Each one encircling the other, start with a smaller one, then go out about a half inch and make another one, then another, until you have 5 relatively even spaced circles on your piece of paper. Now, list these 9 categories on the side of your rings: Financial, Professional, Relationships, Health, Recreation, Personal, Contribution, Material, and Spiritual.
At this point, what you need to do is take each goal topic and consider where you currently feel you are in your life right now on a scale of 1 to 10. So, for instance, let’s say right now you feel your finances are relatively in line with where you would like to be. You may not be a millionaire, but the bills are paid, and you have money in the bank to cover 6 months of expenses. This may warrant a 7 or 8 on your finances category. So, what you would do at this point is; using the rings to help guide you, make a dot that would represent a 7 or 8 on the ring for your finances category. Since there are 5 rings each ring would represent 2 points, so if this was an 8 for you, then you could place it on the second largest circle.
Next, you go through each category the same way. Professional, might be a 6, because you like the work you do but aren’t really challenged and have much more potential and there is no real growth for you at this job. You should get the idea by now. So, keep at it and with each score, evenly place each dot around the circles, so that you create a circle of dots. Well, we are hoping it represents a circle. When you finish you should have something that looks like the diagram at the top of the blog. Now envision this is your Life Wheel and if it was rolling, how well would your Life Wheel roll?
As you can quickly see, these areas of lower scores, would likely impede the wheel from effectively rolling and would be the equivalent of a flat tire on your Life Wheel. Thus, as a coach, my guidance to you would be; to focus on these areas that are lacking. In areas of your life that you have a score less than a 5, you should apply considerable amounts of time and energy to make these scores more even to help balance your Life. Because without some reasonable semblance of balance in your life, the likelihood of finding happiness, will be difficult, if not impossible.
If your scores are relatively balanced, then focus on any area where you are 2 or more points lower than your highest score. Also, if you are generally, all 5’s, 6’s, and 7’s, there is a possibility that you are not being honest with yourself, or maybe, you are just in a good place of balance. If that is the case, good for you, and now you can decide on what areas you want to focus on next to take them to even higher levels of success.
Remember, your Life Wheel doesn’t have to be perfectly round to roll, but the more balanced it is the more effectively it will roll. This would be the equivalent of fewer setbacks and distractions in your day to day experiences. A few low scores could represent some areas that you have been avoiding and when we do this in our lives, we generally find that these are the areas that bring us the most frustration. So, if we continue to avoid those areas of our lives, we likely will get more problems from them or they will cause more frustration, which will impede our ability to be effective in other areas of our lives.
An obvious example of this is, when things aren’t good with your spouse or significant other at home for any reason, then likely this will have some impact at work. At first, you may be able to set that aside, but eventually, if left unchecked, it will grow to the point where it is such a priority that it could cause you to miss out on key things at work. The idea here is to help you grasp the concept that you don’t have to have a perfect balance, and likely you’ll never have a perfect balance, but to strive for as much balance as possible. Ultimately, you determine what balance looks like in your life as well, since you determine what makes up a good score for you based on your priorities and what you want most in life.
I’m certain that applying and reviewing this process on a quarterly basis could be a fantastic way to keep things in alignment for your life.
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Here’s to a great Tuesday, have a phenomenal day!