So, for my second blog of July, I thought I would circle back to the beginning of my journey on “Success with Goals”, and more specifically, the portion of designing your life with purpose. I realized when I set out to write a book about setting goals that not only are there a ton of books out there about goal setting, but the concept is somewhat dry and possibly boring, because most people think they know what this means.
The reality is, this is not correct. There are literally tens of millions, if not legitimately hundreds of millions of people who don’t really set goals, they may have some dreams, they might have written some things down, but they don’t really have a committed plan to execute and follow-through to achieve their goals in life. If we reference the Pareto Principle, this would suggest that fully 80% of the US population doesn’t set goals, or more specifically make plans to achieve their goals. Which is the single determining factor of a goal vs. a dream. That would suggest that 80% of the 330 million people in the US don’t set goals or have a specific plan to achieve them. Quick math, that’s approximately 250 million people.
Most of us think about things that we’d like to have, would be nice to achieve, or would love to do someday. It’s easy to take a trip to “Someday Isle”, more appropriately called “Someday I’ll”, and think about all the things you will do some day. You know, when all the stars are in alignment, everything is in your favor, or you have the time. Guess what, I’m here to tell you that never happens, NEVER! I know, I too have had more trips to “Someday Isle” than I’d like to admit. Just like most of us. Even some of the most successful people we know struggle with too many trips to “Someday Isle”.
You see the concept of designing your life with purpose, means to live your life with intention. You don’t allow yourself to meander through life aimlessly, bouncing from one challenge and obstacle to the next, never quite seeming to get ahead. This is the significant percentage of people who are frustrated with their lives, either their financial, relationship, personal, or career circumstances and aren’t really clear what to do about them. You see if you are living your life with purpose, you are consciously aware of what is important to you in your life, based on your values and what truly moves you.
By knowing and being aware of what your values are, and what you are truly inspired to do, you can make better, more informed, conscious decisions about your life and the direction you are going. You then set goals to lead you in the direction that you truly want to go. This conscious approach of making decisions and preparing for the path necessary for these goals, then allows you to course correct as necessary and make the best decisions for your ideal path in life.
This likely sounds great in concept, and many of you are thinking yeah, that’s great Eric but…Insert your excuse here____. You see I can be honest with you, because I have lived this for as much of my life as many of you reading this blog. Truly, you can choose to make excuses, or you can choose to design your life, sorry if that offends your sensibilities, but if you want that life, you will need to step up to the plate and make some changes to achieve those things you want.
Why live a life you are unhappy with? Life is WAY TOO SHORT, to live even a few years miserable in a circumstance that you are not happy with, trust me, I know what I am talking about. Now, don’t get me wrong, life won’t be all sunshine and rainbows just because you are setting and achieving goals, quite honestly, you may likely fail more than the people living average lives. But who want’s average anyway. Average is what we sell ourselves on to feel more comfortable about what we don’t have. Average is generally not having what you really want and settling for what life gives you.
If you think about it, who wants to muddle along with an average and likely unhappy life, when you CAN have more. A better job, better finances, a better relationship with your parents, kids, spouse, friends, or family? How about having more time for your spiritual beliefs, traveling more, or contributing more to those in need? Or, how about more time to build things, because that’s something that you find really gratifying, better yet, what if you gave more of your time teaching, we certainly could use more good teachers in our world. This is just a sampling of things we may want, but tradeoff for something else, fully believing that we have to give up on what we want for the status quo.
The world has always favored those to strike out and go for what they want in life, those people generally live more fulfilled lives and have more of what they want, because they choose to go after it. I’m here to tell you that you can do the same. You must take the time to first decide what that is, then be prepared to work your butt off to get it! If you are one of those people who is tired of not having what you truly want in your life check out our coaching programs (www.EricWhitmoyer.com/store) and let us help you get started on the path of Designing Your Life with Purpose.
Thanks for reading, here’s to a great 2nd half of 2017!